Getting Back In The Dating Game 101

Stop sulking and feeling bad for yourself! It’s time to kick that bad habit and get back out into the dating world.

Your friends are constantly trying to set you up with dates and your mom won’t get out of your ear about how you should be settling down with someone again. Many times, stepping foot back in the game is easier said than done, and a little advice won’t hurt. Here are some solid guidelines to follow for the newly newly single woman:

1.Before getting back out there, make sure you are over your ex of 5+ years and he understands his place in your life is the past. Reason being, most men are still kids at heart. They play with the toy truck until they get sick of it, put it back on the shelf, then come running back when they see other little boys playing with it. Not this time, playa!

You don’t want to start dating and get distracted by your ex. If you’ve made the decision to move on, then look forward and keep peddling. During the time you are transitioning into dating again, be sure that you are completely comfortable with who you are and you can be happy on your own first.

2. Now, it may have been a few years since you’ve been on the market and chances are, things have changed. People text more than they talk on the phone when getting to know each other, he may not tell you directly that he’s feeling you but he’ll probably tell Twitter. Sad but true!

You may find that this makes flirting a lot easier since you have time to think of a response, and it gives you a little more time to take it to the next level. One night stands are hard to come by these days. Shout out to technology and social media.

3. Speaking of social media, do your research! Unless he’s living under a rock, chances are you can log on and see who he chills with, where he works, and probably if he’s a momma’s boy all by he’s Instagram feed. Don’t go complete stalker with this but as a loyal follower of his, there’s no harm in peaking!

4. Keep your options and your mind open. By options, I don’t mean you can date them all. This process requires you to be selective. It’s just important for you to understand, dating does not mean commitment and as long as you’re both on that same page it’ll be smooth sailing.

An open mind can take you to great places, and trigger a new side of you. We tend to compare a lot to our past relationships or look for what we’re used to. This time around don’t be afraid to try something new and let him open your mind to different experiences. That just might make you fall in love.

5. No Rush! Of course it feels secure when your committed, but you want to stray away from rushing into a relationship because it feels right, right now. Build a bond, friendship, and a connection past intimacy before giving yourself completely to that person. There is no time limit or expiration date on being single so enjoy this time and don’t complicate things by rushing into a commitment. This time, let him ask you about the next step, and don’t take it just because he is ready! The ball is in your court.

6. Last but not least, look good doing it! As a woman, this should stick with you –

If you stay ready, you ain’t gotta get ready.

Share some of your dating tips with us @HerSource
By Tia Long (@Bytialong)

The 18-Year-Old Who Designed Her Prom Dress, Is Now Designing For Celebs!

Her hashtag #KyeBreakTheInternet helped this prom dress go viral!

Kyemah Mcentyre made her dreams come true after showcasing her custom made prom grown on IG. Soon after it caught the eye of thousands, Power’s own Naturi Naughton wanted one for herself, and was later seen modeling a dress by Mcentyre at the BET Awards. Naughton found an instant connection with the young artist when she learned they were both from East Orange, NJ.

Mcentyre agreed to take on the project when Naturi reached, but she was also a little nervous. “It was my second design,” Mcentyre tells Cosmopolitan.com. She took notes by phone — Naughton wanted a mermaid dress in an African “Angelina” print with a halter that showed off her cleavage — and sketched three designs.

At the BET Awards, the responses to the dress were immediate and overwhelmingly positive. “I can’t even get over how much of a queen I felt walking onto the carpet,” Naughton says. “The dress was the talk of the night.”

After such an official debut of her new collection, this recent high school grad is on her way to a successful career as a celebrity designer!

Take a closer look at the Naturi’s custom dress here:

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Misty Copeland Named The First Black Women To Be Named Principal Of American Ballet Theater

Black Girls Rock!

This ballerina is easily making history – making the cover of Time magazine, being recognized in 60 minutes, and starring in ballet’s biggest roles across the nation. Misty Copeland, 32, has been a soloist with the American Ballet Theater since 2007, and she now makes the first African-American principal ballerina in the company’s 75-year history.

Copeland is idolized by millions of girls and has become a social media sensation, as fans rave about her recent promotion and success.

“I had moments of doubting myself, and wanting to quit, because I didn’t know that there would be a future for an African-American woman to make it to this level,”

Ms. Copeland said at a news conference at the Metropolitan Opera House on Tuesday afternoon.

“At the same time, it made me so hungry to push through, to carry the next generation. So it’s not me up here — and I’m constantly saying that — it’s everyone that came before me that got me to this position.”

Copeland’s athleticism and urning for success helped her rise to the high ranking achievement and she accepts the title as principal dancer with grace.

Watch Misty Copeland’s Under Armor commercial that gained over 8 million views above.

[VIDEO] Eric Bellinger Tells Us How He Plans To Bring Classic R&B Back In This Exclusive Interview

Two mix tapes and an April fools joke later, Grammy award winning singer/songwriter Eric Bellinger is ready to drop his highly anticipated album!

The Cali native sat down with The Source to share what his brand new album Cuffing Season has to offer. The album includes features from 2 Chainz, TLC’s own T-Boz, ARoc, Tank, Boosie, Mya, Chay$e, and IAMSU. EB explained that he was inspired to go against the grain with the album title and concept by releasing it in the summer.

“I look it at like, I’m gonna drop Cuffing Season in the summer because I don’t look at love like it’s seasonal…”

The pen behind some of your favorite songs, tells us in this exclusive interview that the official release date has been pushed back a few days, and will be available for purchase on July 10th.

Watch the full interview here and be sure to cop Cuffing Season along with the single “iPod On Shuffle” on iTunes!

-Tia Long (@ByTiaLong)

Karrueche Tells Chris Brown To Man Up on Instagram. He Wasn’t Happy

If you’re not caught up on all of the Chris Brown and Karrueche Tran, you’re clearly living under a rock

Things heated up this past weekend between the celebrity couple as they continue to address their relationship issues through social media. Soon after the two got into an altercation after a Hollywood nightclub, Karrueche did an interview with Access Hollywood and spoke about their status. This wouldn’t be her first interview discussing the breakup, Chris’ daughter and baby mother, and Breezy seems to be sick of hearing it.

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The singer commented on the Shade Room’s post, calling Karrueche weak for her interv

breezy shade roomKarrueche fired back, putting an end to Chris Brown’s pity party with an IG post.

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In any case, as is the norm, Chris suddenly backtracked on his comments, and had this to say about his recent actions concerning his former girlfriend.

-Tia Long (@ByTiaLong)

Tori Kelly Tells Us What to Expect on Her Debut Album ‘Unbreakable Smile’ in This Exclusive Interview

This YouTube sensation has easily blossomed into a superstar! Continue reading Tori Kelly Tells Us What to Expect on Her Debut Album ‘Unbreakable Smile’ in This Exclusive Interview

Faith Evans and Keke Wyatt Connect For New Video “Make Love”

R&B legends Faith Evans and Keke Wyatt bring sexy all the way back with the new visual for “Make Love.” The record off of Evan’s last album Incomparable is strictly grown and sexy. The R&B divas make no mistake in delivering quality vocals over these lusty lyrics. Watch the full video above and be sure to get Incomparable on iTunes now.

-Tia Long (@ByTiaLong)

Ashley Graham Says This Is Why We Should Ditch The Term “Plus Size” Model

Model and Body Activist, Ashley Graham, does not refer to herself as “Plus Size”; instead she calls it “My Size.”

During her TEDx Talk, Graham discusses the struggles she’s faced in the cut-throat fashion industry as a plus size model. The model explains how she found peace in an industry that defines perfection from the outside in.

“Rolls, curves, cellulite, I love every part of me.”

Ashley mentions that “plus size” in modeling ranges from size 8 to size 16, which is the majority of women in America. Categorizing her as plus size made her feel like an outsider in the fashion world, and it limited her career path because the industry defined her only by size. The multibillion dollar industry has progressed slightly in accepting the diversities in beauty. Graham explains that there is no single patent for what is considered beautiful and she suggests that instead of using labels, we need to redefine the global vision of beauty.

“Back in Nebraska I was known as the fat model—the girl who was pretty for a big girl.”

She said that idea was isolating.

“My body, like my confidence, has been picked apart, manipulated and controlled by others who didn’t necessarily understand it.”

She also adds that Dove did a survey with thousands of women in 10 different countries and found that only 2 percent of women thought they were beautiful, which is depressingly low. The video is inspiring and Ashley Graham empowers women by sharing her experience as a plus size model.

Take a look at the full TEDx Talk video above, and tell us your thoughts @HERSOURCE on Twitter.

– Tia Long (@ByTiaLong)

Her Source | Here’s How A 22-Year-Old Made Her Blog Site Go Viral – Full Interview With Miss T.N. King Here!

Dreams really do come true. Cliché isn’t it?

Chicago native, Taara King, turned her dreams into reality on her 22nd birthday. Her alias, Miss TN King, is well known after, what she thought was a little ol’ blog, turned into a nationwide movement. King launched her blog site only in December, sharing some of her most personal experiences with men, daily life struggles, and stories about her coming to age journey. Her posts have accumulated over 3 million views without any strategic promotion on her end, and girls around the country are raving about her down to earth insight and empowering truth. Her Source caught up with Miss T.N. King for an interview to hear how she feels about the reception and success MissTNKing.com has brought to her life:

1.For those who aren’t familiar, who is Miss T.N. King? What do you do, what’s the site about, and what do you believe your “purpose” is?

Miss TN King, she’s a go getter, she’s a queen, she’s confident, she’s passionate and has a lot of purpose. I’m from Chicago, 22 years old went to school in Louisiana, LSU, and I started my blog not too long after graduating college. I’ve made my mistakes in life but what I’m learning is that everything I go through, I go through it for a reason, whether set backs or trials, somehow that’s going to push me closer to my destiny. I’m at a point in my life where I refuse to stop, I’m going to keep going after my dreams, if I get “No” I don’t hear “No” I hear “Something better is coming along”. That is who Miss TN King is, and my purpose is to share confidence and a message.

2.Where did the idea to create your Sincerely King Blog come from, and how long after launching did notice a substantial growth in viewers?

I’ve always said to myself that I wanted to have a platform where I can inspire women, but it was also a milestone of personal growth for me. That’s because I’m so private and I keep a lot of personal experiences to myself, and I remember one of my best friends said to me “hey you should share some of your stories it can help people” but I was the type of person that didn’t like people in my business. So I was very hesitant in starting my blog because I knew I wanted to open about some things, and I was afraid of how people would perceive me, or how they would feel about some of the things I kept so dear to my heart. I started this blog really with the hopes of empowering women. I feel as if so many of us have the same stories, you know you can sometimes just talk to somebody and realized that we’re the same! And it’s sad because a lot of women, we’re always beefing or getting into it, but if we can all just come together and have a platform for which we can share our experiences, and realize we can really uplift each other it will be great.

I launched my blog on December 16th on my birthday this past year. The first post was “Chapter 22” which hit about 47 views. Two weeks later, “The New Side Chick: I Was Her” was published and it hit 1.5 million views in one day! I originally sent the blog post to only my sorority sisters and a few of my friends, posted a little something on IG and it went viral.

3.Are you accessible for people to send you emails, do people ask you for advice?

Well yes, when it first when viral my email blew up! Hundreds and hundreds of people asking me for advice. Honestly I was overwhelmed, but I was so flattered because I’ve always been that friend to talk to and give advice. So at the time it was like, God I’ve been praying for this and BOOM it was right it in my face. I will admit though, that all of the hundreds of emails I couldn’t respond to all of them but now I’m at a point where I have a little more control over it and so if someone contacts me, wants insight, or life coaching I can help. I will let them know I am not a professional but I do try to give them some type of wisdom when they come to me.

4.You talk a lot about females being aware of their Queendom, what do you believe are the steps to creating and obtaining the “throne”?

I believe that everyone has an inner queen. When I say that Queen, I mean that woman that’s fierce, confident, she’s beautiful, when she walks into a room, she owns it. Anything she touches, it’s going to turn into good because she has favor of the lord in her life. Your Queendom, that’s your purpose, that’s your accomplishments and successes, that’s your legacy. This is what you’re here on earth for, to have your Queendom and to impact lives by making a difference. And I feel like women we have to just tap into it because I wish we knew our full potential. Women make the world go around, and no one would be here if it weren’t for women! Even with men we have so much power over them and we don’t utilize it effectively, the power is within our standards, they way we carry ourselves, and what we’re going to put up with. So the Queen, she embraces all of that and takes control over her life. I’m all about pushing this message to women about how powerful we are and we can do anything regardless of what society says.

5.Your most recent post “3 Reasons Every Woman Should Go On A Man Fast” is very interesting and inspirational for young women. During your break from men, you mention the importance of dedicating more time to God. How long do you feel like this fast should last in order to be effective?

I knew I was going to be off of it, once I knew who I was and I had a set of goals and dreams for what God has called me to do. That’s when your fast is over, when you know who you are! Then when God, even when then devil throws more men in your face, you have the will power to not be easily influenced. When you have the confidence and independence, you won’t be going on the petty dates anymore, you’ll be talking to people of substance and quality, so if they can’t bring anything to the table then there’s no where for them to sit! Once you have those questions you went into the fast with, answered, that’s when you can end your fast and start dating again.

6.Since you’ve received such great feedback and you see the effect your material has on so many people, what’s the next step for Miss T.N King?

I plan on making my posts more frequent, adding videos to make my blog more visual, and I do want to launch my “Ask King” section. So you know if anyone wants to talk to me or ask me anything I can respond to them because I am all about inspiring and uplifting others. I am also a contestant for the Miss Illinois USA 2016 pageant, just going after my dreams fearlessly. I’m fundraising for that so, I am working on a lot so there’s a lot I’m excited about! To keep up with my posts you can visit my site MissTNKing.com and I’ll keep the site updated with events and any announcements.

Support and donate to her run for Miss Illinois USA HERE
Click HERE to visit Miss T.N. King’s site to read her articles.
Follow Her – @MissTNKING

-Tia Long (@ByTiaLong)

Willow Smith Poses For Marc Jacobs And Absolutely Slays!

Willow is all grown up!

The American label, Marc Jacobs, revealed via Instagram that singer/actress, Willow Smith, is the new face of the Fall/Spring collection. In the first ad image, which accompanied the announcement, Will and Jada Smith’s 14-year-old daughter is dressed up like a steampunk princess in a black lace dress with sheer panels and a metallic bodice, teamed with a jacquard coatdress. Black gloves, lace-up block heels, and a long belt, draped like a sword, complete the ensemble.

Jacobs commends Willow for her chic and radiant style in the announcement of the new collection –

Ever since our first Juergen Teller ad in 1998 which featured Kim Gordon on stage wearing my dress, I have always preferred collaborating with the people who inspire me to give new life to the clothes we show on our runway.

He states.

Willow will be joining 69-year-old icon Cher in the collection, hense Marc Jacobs’ quote.

Here today I would like to share (not CHER) with you first, the talented, stylish and charming Willow Smith

-Tia Long (@ByTiaLong)